Your Super Smart Guide to Synchronicity

“Anyone write about synchronicity?” The on-screen question whispered in my ear.

“I do.” I texted back. And I have but not near what this topic deserves.  I believe we live in a limitless age for the divine to chat with us through our personalized algorithm!

Allow synchronicity to guide your spirituality, and you’ll become better.

In short, that translates into everything means something. Every fabric, smell, touch, sight, nuance of our life can mean something. That’s what the concept of synchronicity is. Ready to explore synchronicity?

I’ll kickstart you with this, your super smart guide to synchronicity.

What is synchronicity?

Synchronicity assumes the events, circumstances, and the content of our life experiences are attached by interwoven strings. Carl Jung believed that these events did not cause or produce effects on each other. Instead, he believed these happened in closeness to one another, but their connection although present was mysterious. So, we didn’t understand why they were related, but they were still connected.

The infamous example is the dream you have about someone and then you meet up with them the next day. Why does this occur?

These strings of this mysterious relationship of synchronicity pull together our collective experiences like a garment. Like that living garment we want to grow to our fullest potential and synchronicity gives us that chance and vision.

Impressions of Synchronicity

When I first heard this word synchronicity, I pulled up a mental pic of the 1980s Police album. But synchronicity was best defined in a self-help book, the Artist Way. Author Julia Cameron debuts the concept and I have learned much about synchronicity over the years.

Some people connect synchronicity with the law of attraction.  They believe we have a power to materialize our desire into the concrete. 

They say things like, I visualized the home, car, jewelry that I have right now. This is called manifestation.  It means if you desire with enough intensity, it will appear.  This hasn’t been my experience.  But if it’s yours, that’s great.

Nonetheless, I can speak about this part of synchronicity. I do believe there’s a unique connection between desire and delivery.  As Holocaust survivor, Erich Fromm explained, with his magic wand of logic, “what you think is.”

But synchronicity is so much grander than our limited desirous thoughts.

How do you capture synchronicity-led events?

The Synchronicity Problem

This is tricky. But this synchronicity guide stresses consciousness and consistency. None of which humanity is skilled at. This is the crux of the problem. That’s why synchronicity escapes us. We must pay it constant attention and we don’t know how to pay attention to it.

The Synchronicity Solution

Matthew Kelly in his prayer process reinvents the idea of the daily examination of conscience for new generations.  Today, we tend to see this look back at our day’s events as a chore. Some say reflection is punishment. This is especially if we lose sight of the growth element. 

But we’re given a chance by a review of the highlights and lowlights of our day to become better people.  More loving, supportive, positive, amazing people. 

Who would want to let that pass by?

You’d be surprised. 

It’s all about conversation. Without the conversation, you can lose sight of the string-tied events, people, and circumstances.

Matthew Kelly’s Prayer Process and Synchronicity

This is a way of getting to the heart of the growth conversation.  You ask yourself a series of questions.  They start with gratitude and end as you ask God to guide and bless others.  But the in-between questions are the ones that bring synchronicity all together. 

Guide to the Meat of the Process

Synchronous Guided Conversation

Positive Spin

Where the growth happens is in the conversation which speaks of three ingredients of self: the best, worst, and connected.

First, the best self.  Matthew Kelly calls this your holiness moment. 

• When were you most like your ideal self? 
• When did you most live out your core values?

These are ideals like honesty or family first. Upon reflection the next day, these seconds will stand out as moments of significance.

Negative Spin

The second question encounters the worst self. Mistakes are painful, but mistakes that are also sinful devastate our growth.  So, if you lost it on the freeway that’s a tally mark to hinder growth.  Sorry, but that’s how were made.

• So, what do you do from there?
• How do you make this situation right? 

Guide to a Synchronous Balance

That’s the conversation God wants to have with you.  It may not be to fix it.  It might be acceptance of your character flaw, or permission to indulge in the extreme of your shortcoming. Then, rein it back in.

The third question speaks to your best inner self.  The part of you that no longer wants to be tied down by sin or shortcoming. The question of God’s invitation to more freedom is a seldom pondered one.  But Matthew Kelly’s prayer process targets this talk between you and your creator as a key part of his process.

The third self, is the connected self. This comes when you review significant events or residue in your day that you know will be important. Something may just feel right. Or for instance, a thought of affirmation may pop into your head.

These mixtures of thought, omission, and action fall into the review of your daily residues. Best-self moments, worst-self moments, and significant moments make up what floats to the top like bubbles in your daily residues.

Review and Sync to the Full Prayer Process

In sum, the prayer process works like a guided discussion.

Guide to Synchronous Prompts

Gratitude

Today, God I thank you for …..

Awareness

• Take me back God to the moments when I was my best self.
• Take me back God to the moment when I was my worst self.
• Let’s talk. 
• What do you want me to learn from both these instances of yesterday’s highlight and low-light reels of my thoughts, actions, and inactions?

Important Moments

• Was there something I experienced in the last twenty-four-hour period that had an impact on me, small or large? 
• God what are you trying to say to me through that event or person?
• In this synchronicity moment…where are you leading me next?

Forgiveness

• Please forgive me Lord for hurting you when I…..
• Forgive me for hurting others (people/animals)…
• Forgive me for hurting myself when I….

Freedom

• I want to talk with you, God, about how you’re calling me to change my life so I can be the best version of myself.
• God, what is that freedom you want me to enjoy?
• How can I be free of negativity, judgment, jealousy, unsolicited advice giving, envy, and cynicism?

Others

• I lift up to you God anyone you have laid upon my heart to pray for today like….
• Please bless and guide them.

Pray the Our Father

Why does synchronicity seem to hide from us?

As it reads in the Bible, Elijah in the Old Testament heard the earthquake, but he hid his face in his cloak at the sound of the whisper. 

Synchronicity is like that.

We have a glimpse of a bigger picture of life when we stop to search and listen for synchronicity.

We have to peel back the disorder of injustice in poverty, untimely deaths, illness, and tragedy to see and taste the sandy, gritty, sweet core of life. 

When we focus on the Universe as it works to guide our destiny, we fall below the drama of the avoidance of pain. Then, we realize the pain is there to make us pay attention, not run away.    

Synchronicity Guide Words of Warning

Once you begin to tap into this resource of daily residues, you will be tempted to fall away.  Because growth is uncomfortable…at first.  It’s new, strange, and full of undeniable questions.  No instruction book available for the journey within.  I checked and stumped the librarian. And everyone’s path is different.

You’re Not Alone

There are many ways to experience synchronicity. 

Keep these close by as you begin this guide to synchronicity

• Music – songs are powerful voices of divine love and guidance for me.  They could be for you too. As they say, music is its own language. I have a post on the three-song trick to entice you to be on the lookout for these touches of the divine.

• Surprise events – your sister-in-law scores tickets to see a play and it happens to coincide with the same day you got told to leave work early.

• Time – you make sure you leave with ten minutes to spare before your appointment.  But without fail you’re stopped at every traffic light and train track.  Now ten minutes late, the traffic report tells of the fatal accident you just missed. Remember the broken shoelace story on 9-11?

• Movies – you see a movie that feels like it’s full of cut scenes from your life. This motion picture inspires you to make life changes in your journey. 

These are more subtle signs of synchronicity

• Encourgement – a stranger comes up to you in the parking lot as you move to your car to tell you you would make a good teacher.  You’ve never seen this person in your life.  And that was just what you needed to hear as your doubted your next class’s outcome.

• Vacations – the experience of a new culture or way of life that opens yourself up to novel thought patterns and knowledge you’ll need for the immediate future.

• Conversations with strangers – the person in the seat next to you on the plane happens to need to hear exactly what you say to them in that moment.

• Carbon copies of desires – exactly what you imagine or dream about appears before you in some physical context.

• Help come from out of nowhere – you realize you need help from someone. And that someone appears who’s skilled for that exact task. Sometimes that person shows up before you’ve asked aloud for them.

• Mysterious people – you have a dream about someone and see then unexpectantly the next day or dream about a dead relative you later recognize in a photo.

• Sights – you keep seeing the number 12 and suddenly you realize it’s an even dozen days left until your anniversary. But you haven’t stopped to shop for a gift. 

These are all little nudges you can’t explain.

Endless Synchronicity Guide’s Potential

These are some examples of the ten listed here.  But blogger Jess Carpenter has had a much more sensual encounter than I have had with synchronicity. She explains how the reoccurrence of a color helped her decide on her alma mater.  

In American Cosmic, Dr. D. W. Pasulka opens the door to the possibility that these occurrences may be in the hands of more than human beings and circumstances.  Her characters within her pages describe the emotional or physical guidance from heavenly or other worldly players.

Watch out for the greys of synchronicity. Sometimes in the review of your day you might find a person or event shows up in both categories of best-self moment and worst-self moment.  That spells out the need for a divine conversation.

Synchronicity’s Compromise Corner

Compromises may be in order like when you catch up with an old friend and the conversation continues. It may start a time monopoly.  Perhaps, you could limit your exchanges to a set part of your day for a set time?

Conversation is key for these types of reflective observations that demand compromises. Also, I would say, try a walk while you talk.  Don’t forget the right brain.  That’s another topic saved for a later post.

You may get to a day’s end and have little on the best-self reflection column to report.  That’s okay, sometimes synchronicity teaches us lessons we’re not ready to hear, or they flat out hurt. Remember the adage to describe the learner’s process? You fall seven times and get up on the eighth. That’s a lot of skinned knees and Neosporin.

A Forever Change

Once you reveal the possibilities of synchronicity the probability of each type in our radar increases.  This is a phenomenon known as Bader-Meinhof.   This selective attention effect is often temporary if not nourished in your subconscious.

Guide on the Break-through Blocks

Sometimes the synchronocity review process slams into blocks. All the sudden, you can’t make it through the full prayer process. If so, switch up the input strategy. For instance, some days, it’s easy for me to do a pen and paper review of my daily residues. But if I try it in my head, it’s hard to finish.

Tips to Technological Applications of Synchronicity Guide

Type or Text Process

Write out the steps of the prayer process and move through them each day in a word processing program or phone notes.  Save and later highlight repetitive behavior that keeps you from your set goals. Recall Four Hour Work Week’s Parkinson’s Law? Are you an inventor of things to do to avoid the important?

For example, you may find yourself lost in front of the TV/sports channel with little accomplished on your to-do-list. Set aside one day a week to look over this trend of highlights.  Harmonize your goals with your learner’s curve.

• Aim for slow consistent change 
• Remember growth toward goals takes place with regression 
• You might take two steps forward one day and three steps back the next day
• Roll out a blanket of patience for yourself

Keep your phone notes app open to jot down items for later conversations with the divine the next morning.

Media

Tape the prayer process as an mp3 track to play on your phone.  Listen and go through it as you work out.

You-Tube the prayer process with a plea for partners on your journey. Keep in touch with who responds in your comment section.

Guide the Eye to What’s Underneath Emotion

Like for instance, today, I noticed I found it difficult to wait to talk to a friend in a conversation with my family.

Upon examination of the emotion, I realized that the frustration was not from the line-cutter to my left but the frustration of a loss of contact with this friend during the pandemic.

This came to me as I asked the question, why are you really upset? As I played back my monologue, I discovered a deeper meaning.

Synchronous Accountability Partners

As you begin to know yourself, you may need to ask for help. This is especially important in your growth. How do you find a suitable partner. Yes that’s a topic for another post.  But synchronicity may help you out with the partner.  Just pay attention.  And it may be a fluid partnership. One gender may appeal to you on your start. Where if you mature, you may feel a tug to switch genders.

Notes to Sync and Guide Before You Move On

• Synchronicity is nothing new.  Carl Jung coined the term in his practice as he worked with ideas on a collective consciousness. 
• What is novel in this post is the use of the examination of conscience to make it mindful on a regular basis. 
• As you continue to make slight changes in your life’s goals, you might find yourself turning into more than you wanted at first.

Awareness of your desire and how it’s related to your goals puts you on the game board of life. 

But it’s the implementation of little changes over time that amount to huge changes later.

Often as you grow, your fate overlaps with others.  You’ll have to decide whether they’re there to help you move in your desired direction or if they call you to a new one.

So, the prayer process may be a routine you put into action a step at a time. But remember the catch phrase, too much, too fast, won’t last.

It’s too true.

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